Surfers Paradise girl Andi Lew has conquered the world of wellness coaching and publishing. Now she’s ready to make her mark on the dating world
How did the creation of #instalovers – Digital Dating, DM Disasters and Love Stories come about?
I started researching how we now court and connect on social media and dating apps about four years ago. I was travelling back and forth to America to appear on TV shows with my other six books. I noticed it was a real ‘norm’ to be on Bumble or Tinder and in Australia there was still a stigma associated with it. Yet, friends had been falling in love and getting married off the apps and so after a couple of years of shelving the idea, I decided to revisit it! It felt timely. Dating apps are now rife but nobody gave us a book of rules with it all, so I created one!
Was writing this type of book something you wanted to do for a while?
I’m a wellness expert and health professional with credentials in food, lifestyle and wellness coaching and I owned a wellness centre for 13 years. Wellness is my life’s work and passion. I’ve written six other books with a theme around natural living, but one thing is constant: connectedness. I observe culture and social trends and wanted to create something that’s relevant and this was it. Nobody was talking about healthy relationships and modern dating, so I felt it was my responsibility to. I partnered with Moments vegan condoms to help me with the strong message of being protected and prepared because you need to #knowyourworth.
What’s been the most challenging or rewarding experience throughout the whole process? Furthermore, was the process different this time?
Self-love was the biggest theme in this and it’s not different to my others when we look at it from this perspective. To have a healthy relationship with others, it needs to start with yourself. Josh Metz, who was the marketing director of Tinder for five years, wrote the foreword and noted that I’ll teach you not only how to “swipe right for more than one night”, but also be a “better version of yourself.” The most challenging thing was learning how to be safe. That’s my favourite chapter called ‘Weed out the Weirdos’.
What’s the best career advice you’ve ever received?
Love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely. Oh! You said ‘career’ advice! All my jobs have taken on a crusade of such, because I believe you should do jobs you’re passionate and sincere about. Jobs will always have their challenges. You’ll give up when things get tough, but if you love it, you’ll never give up! I work 25 hours a day and eight days a week but I’m
never feeling like I’m working. Even when I was 16 and worked three jobs, I remembered my vision ‘to entertain and inspire’. My work ethic is strong. I always tell my son, “success happens to those who are willing to do the things others aren’t.”
What’s the best relationship advice you’ve ever received?
Love freely is my mantra. “Be happy” were my grandmother’s parting words to me. Take your time. We live in a swipe life culture and want it all so fast. Slow it down and make sure you’re actually compatible, not just with chemistry or on a physical level but make sure you’re on the same page on every other level too. Women, there’s no rush to settle down just because you feel your biological clock is ticking. There are other ways to be fertile naturally. I fell pregnant first go at age 37. I can help you with that too. Focus on being well and having certainty. It’s attractive!
What’s on your agenda for 2019?
I’m taking #instalovers to America for a press tour. We are looking at turning the book into a show too!
Having been featured on Good Day New York amongst others, what’s the next step in your goals and plans?
That was one of the best shows I presented on. I was able to report my prediction for
wellness trends. I’d like to continue creating connectedness during this social revolution.