Unlocking the secret diary: confessions of a male escort and a former Madam

THE MALE ESCORT

We get candid with a real-life escort and go behind closed doors to talk professionalism and business

Jamie J is your ultimate nice guy and a true-blue Australian bloke. His natural charm and rapport with women lead to a life changing encounter several months ago, when a woman starved of affection introduced him to the business. Since then, Jamie has turned professional escort and built a client base through word of mouth and escort agency Scarlet Blue.

Whilst most of the responsibilities of being an escort require following Queensland state law, adhering to agency protocol and a duty of care towards clients, the service also encompasses more than sex and is an interesting reflection on modern day society.

Jamie divulged, “First and foremost being an escort is about providing intimacy and a sex service, though this is changing towards a focus on healing and providing a safe space for women to feel comfortable and beautiful.’’

The clientele demographic Jamie has is wide-ranging, mostly from mid-thirties to fifties and sometimes older. What’s even more diverse is their professional and economic backgrounds – some women save up and others choose to spend their substantial income this way. Jamie gave the example of a stock broker and childcare minder, who had both booked his services within the same couple of weeks.

Regardless, Jamie’s focus is on providing a professional and successful service to each client. He explained, “I am here to hold space for my clients, whether that be intimacy, conversation, healing or even binge-watching Netflix together.’’

While Jamie recognized the negative side to the industry, he reasoned that every industry has its bad sides. It’s all about the intent of the people within the industry and a personal responsibility to uphold ethical standards and give back to society.

Reiki (a Japanese therapy which aims to promote wellness and healing through gentle touch) is part of the philosophy and practice behind Jamie’s services, and part of the larger picture of helping society find connection and companionship. Jamie’s mantra: ‘giving someone something so difficult to obtain and experience in the modern world of dating and social media.’ Jamie is still finding the right way to explain his profession to his parents, however, friends and others in the business have been very supportive. Jamie suggested this is perhaps an indication of the changing nature towards escorts and its old stigma of a seedy underbelly.

Jamie described, “I believe we finally live in an exciting time where women can choose to access the same privileges men have had for centuries, such as services like these. They deserve to let their hair down, forget about the world’s troubles and enjoy time being totally indulgent for their own benefit. And that’s what I want to help them do. The time has come now for women to explore these areas and be in a position of power.’’

The nerves still hit Jamie occasionally when he first meets a client, like the first few moments on stage – a feeling he is used to as someone with a musician background. However, Jamie spoke of living his truth and his goals for his career long term, with a drive to further establish himself in the industry.

They deserve to let their hair down…being totally indulgent for their own benefit.

Tours, hiring his own marketing team, studying kinesiology (a form of therapy that uses muscle monitoring to relieve imbalances in the body) and creating his own website are just some of the goals Jamie will strive for as he builds his brand in an industry that’s been reinventing itself since it began.

THE FORMER MADAM

Fully uncensored, we share the honest account of one woman’s journey from 9-to-5 worker to Madam

Having been based in Brisbane for the better part of my career, I built myself a solid reputation in the corporate realm. I worked the age-old Monday to Friday, nine ‘til five, completing paperwork, managing databases, attending business meetings with internal and external customers, building professional relationships and, on some occasions, travelling interstate to attend conferences and seminars. It was exactly how it sounds – stressful!

It wasn’t until I met my current partner, that I decided to make the move to the Gold Coast to be with him and to chase the ‘lifestyle’ – trading in Queensland’s main business hub, for the beach and laidback vibe.

I had secured a job that was utilising my already acquired skills and experience, however, I was in it for approximately six months when the company went into receivership. I had no experience working in the tourism industry, which is the epicentre of the Gold Coast’s job market and an industry where it’s very hard to get a full-time, permanent, salary role, as everyone and every business is so transient.

While scanning Seek for jobs one day, a good friend sent me a text saying, “Babe – here’s a job for you, it sounds fun and you could definitely do it.” She added a laughing emoji at the end and so, of course, I clicked on the link to see exactly what she was talking about.

The job being something that I had only seen in movies and tv… a Madam.

It was a receptionist role working within the adult entertainment industry. I took my friend up on her challenge and phoned the number (out of curiosity and to one-up my friend really). Unbelievably, I ended up securing that interview and walked out with the job!

The job being something that I had only seen in movies and tv… a Madam. My partner didn’t agree with it at first, but I am headstrong and so I started my new job working twelve-hour shifts, some day and some nigh shifts.

And that’s when I learned the reality behind the escort process.

And those that used this service? They weren’t completely what you’d expect either.

Some clients would make bookings via phone calls or text for specific ladies; we often had regular clients that would book with the same lady each time, whereas other clients would be walk-ins. If it was a walk-in client, or group of clients, I would seat them in our introduction lounge and let the ladies know that they had a client waiting to meet them.

Dressed in their lingerie and heels, with makeup and hair done, each lady would individually introduce themselves to the client, spending five to ten minutes discussing the client’s wants and needs before it was the next lady’s turn. This process was in place to ensure each lady on shift had equal opportunities to make bookings – remember, for these ladies it was a conscious decision to be in this industry. Most of them had other part-time roles or were studying. It was, and still is, a means to cover every day living expenses, bills, rent, mortgage, car payments, university fees and so on – a very lucrative means of living for some.

Once the ladies had met with the client, I would then go back and meet with the client again to take their booking. Of course, all the ladies had aliases that they went by; no personal details were ever disclosed for all of our protection and privacy. Booking times started from 30 minutes, to 45 minutes, up to an hour.

And those that used this service? They weren’t completely what you’d expect either.

Some were middle-aged men celebrating an occasion — a divorce settlement for example. I also had a few clients come in to lose their virginity – it was something that had been weighing on their shoulders and they wanted to get the awkwardness over and done with. For some, it was starting to become a hindrance finding a partner, as it would come to ‘crunch time’ and they would panic or avoid getting physically intimate with their partner. In some cases, this had resulted in their relationships ending. What amazed me with these clients is that it actually made the ladies nervous; being the one to be someone’s ‘first time’ was something that they took as a serious responsibility.

But by far the majority are professional working men, the common theme amongst them: loneliness. Often the ladies would inform me after their bookings that there had been no sex involved. Some of these bookings had gone on for four to five hours – all the clients were really after was companionship. It was saddening at times to think that with so many people in the world loneliness is still rife.

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