In the whirlwind of daily life, it’s easy to overlook the profound impact that a mere ten minutes can have on our children’s lives. The Fathering Project’s “10 More Minutes” initiative emphasises that dedicating just ten additional minutes of quality time each day can significantly influence a child’s development.
Research underscores the importance of quality time between fathers and their children. Engaging in meaningful interactions, even for short periods, can:
- Enhance Emotional Well-being: Children feel more secure and valued.
- Boost Academic Performance: Regular engagement fosters a love for learning.
- Increase Self-esteem: Children develop a stronger sense of self-worth.
- Promote Cognitive Development: Stimulating activities encourage critical thinking.
Presence With Purpose
It’s not merely about being present, but being present with purpose. Whether your child is a toddler or a teenager, those extra minutes can create lasting memories and strengthen your bond.
Think back to your own childhood. Often, it’s the simple moments – playing catch, bedtime stories, or impromptu kitchen dance parties – that leave an lasting mark. By intentionally setting aside time, you’re not just filling minutes but building a reservoir of cherished experiences for your child.
Practical Ways to Spend Ten More Minutes
Incorporating extra quality time doesn’t require grand gestures. Here are some simple yet impactful activities:
- Outdoor Adventures: Take a walk along the beautiful Gold Coast beaches or explore local parks.
- Creative Projects: Engage in arts and crafts, like painting seashells or building sandcastles.
- Reading Together: Dive into a new book or let your child pick their favourite story.
- Cooking: Prepare a simple meal or bake treats together, making the kitchen a fun learning space.
Dr. Bruce Robinson, founder of The Fathering Project, offers two key strategies to maximise the effectiveness of these ten minutes:
- Be Intentional: “Right now, pick up your phone or your diary and write it in: 10 more minutes with my kids.” By scheduling this time, you demonstrate its importance and ensure it becomes a consistent part of your routine.
- Listen Actively: “It’s not about you talking to your kids and giving them advice; it’s about listening. That makes it a success.” Engage in conversations where your child leads the dialogue. Ask them about their friends, school, interests – be it music, sports, or hobbies. This approach fosters trust and openness, making your child feel heard and valued.
One of the most effective ways to invest this time is through “Dad Dates.” These are special one-on-one outings where fathers can connect deeply with each child. The Fathering Project offers a comprehensive Dad Date Tip Sheet, providing creative ideas and guidance to make these moments memorable.
To get started and for more inspiration, download the Dad Date Tip Sheet from The Fathering Project’s website: thefatheringproject.org/dad-date-tip-sheet
Time is fleeting, but the memories we create with our children are timeless. By dedicating just ten more minutes each day, you’re investing in your child’s future, fostering a relationship built on love, trust, and shared experiences.
Remember, it’s not about the quantity of time, but the quality. Those extra ten minutes can make all the difference.
Top Tips about Dad Dates!
- Dad Dates are one child at a time, with no-one else and no interruptions.
- Book it in and try not to cancel. Make a point of scheduling this in your diary, just like a meeting or a job. Don’t leave these Dates to chance.
- Focus on connecting. Help your child to feel like they are valued, loved and worth your time.
- Keep it Dad Dates don’t have to be elaborate; a simple coffee, lunch or just going for a walk are easy ways to create one-on-one time.
- It can sometimes be Occasionally, try taking your child somewhere they’ve been wanting to try, this will help them know you listen to them.
- Be engaged. Turn your mobile on silent and ensure there are no distractions, like the TV playing in the background (engage with them to make them feel worthy).
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